This week, a young individual in Glen & Yvette’s life asked if therapy as a single person is worth it and if they would’ve gone to therapy before getting married, how that would have affected their relationship now. The short answer: Therapy is very worth it. But why?
The Start of Their Marriage
After getting married, Glen learned a lot about himself that he’s not sure he would’ve ever noticed without being married to Yvette. Marriage created accountability and awareness for him because now, everything he does affects someone else. In his opinion, Glen’s not sure he would’ve ever brought his issues up in therapy as a single because he wasn’t aware he needed the help. It’s important to do self work, but there are things he feels can only be discovered with a partner.
On the other hand, Yvette feels the opposite. When she thinks about the issues they had at the start of their marriage, she sees them as individual issues she never worked through before. As a single, she was focused on being everything for everyone, except being herself. It caused an identity crisis that she carried with her into her marriage. When she couldn’t communicate with Glen and felt like no one listened to her, she decided it was time for her to try therapy, and it made all the difference. It allowed her to advocate for herself and discover who she was outside of others’ expectations. Had she started therapy earlier, she might have found herself sooner.
She sees the same in Glen. Had he done therapy before marriage, she thinks he may have seen how his familial relationships affect how he views other relationships in his life, and his relationship with his parents might have been better than they are now.
But Glen’s not sure it would have come up.
“When you’re single, you’re not forced to be anywhere you don’t want to be. Marriage is a different type of accountability. People don’t like therapy because they don’t like being told what to do.”
Glen Henry
That’s also why they both believe it’s important to surround yourself with like-minded friends and mentors who can walk with you through life’s obstacles. You have to be willing to have those conversations and be held accountable for what needs changed, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Is Therapy Worth it as a Single?
Therapy is important as a single person because you don’t know what you don’t know. You can go to the gym and think you’re doing great, but it changes when you get a personal trainer. You’ll realize you weren’t pushing yourself hard enough or weren’t having good form. You were doing the right things, but you did them the wrong way. You don’t want to be blind about how you affect others and the ways you hurt people and yourself. Therapy will help you do it right the first time and work on things you may not have realized needed work.
Thank you for being here, Wedding Party! We’ll see you next week!
The HMAY Team
Grab the freebie: Serve Your Spouse Well!
This week, a young individual in Glen & Yvette’s life asked if therapy as a single person is worth it and if they would’ve gone to therapy before getting married, how that would have affected their relationship now. The short answer: Therapy is very worth it. But why?
The Start of Their Marriage
After getting married, Glen learned a lot about himself that he’s not sure he would’ve ever noticed without being married to Yvette. Marriage created accountability and awareness for him because now, everything he does affects someone else. In his opinion, Glen’s not sure he would’ve ever brought his issues up in therapy as a single because he wasn’t aware he needed the help. It’s important to do self work, but there are things he feels can only be discovered with a partner.
On the other hand, Yvette feels the opposite. When she thinks about the issues they had at the start of their marriage, she sees them as individual issues she never worked through before. As a single, she was focused on being everything for everyone, except being herself. It caused an identity crisis that she carried with her into her marriage. When she couldn’t communicate with Glen and felt like no one listened to her, she decided it was time for her to try therapy, and it made all the difference. It allowed her to advocate for herself and discover who she was outside of others’ expectations. Had she started therapy earlier, she might have found herself sooner.
She sees the same in Glen. Had he done therapy before marriage, she thinks he may have seen how his familial relationships affect how he views other relationships in his life, and his relationship with his parents might have been better than they are now.
But Glen’s not sure it would have come up.
“When you’re single, you’re not forced to be anywhere you don’t want to be. Marriage is a different type of accountability. People don’t like therapy because they don’t like being told what to do.”
Glen Henry
That’s also why they both believe it’s important to surround yourself with like-minded friends and mentors who can walk with you through life’s obstacles. You have to be willing to have those conversations and be held accountable for what needs changed, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Is Therapy Worth it as a Single?
Therapy is important as a single person because you don’t know what you don’t know. You can go to the gym and think you’re doing great, but it changes when you get a personal trainer. You’ll realize you weren’t pushing yourself hard enough or weren’t having good form. You were doing the right things, but you did them the wrong way. You don’t want to be blind about how you affect others and the ways you hurt people and yourself. Therapy will help you do it right the first time and work on things you may not have realized needed work.
Thank you for being here, Wedding Party! We’ll see you next week!
The HMAY Team
Grab the freebie: Serve Your Spouse Well!
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